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"Sleep
tight. Don't let the bed bugs bite." Many of us remember
these words whispered to us when we were children. But now that
we are adults, the last thing we want to feel, as we try to drift
off to sleep, is "tight"! After a long day of work,
errands, caring for the family, fixing dinner, our brains and
our bodies often feel TOO "tight" to let us drift comfortably
off to sleep. Yet, we know that the relief that sleep brings is
just what we need if we want to be fresh for another busy day
of life!
How
do you relax into sleep when challenged by physical pain, or mental
"busy-ness"? How do you just "turn off" the
pain or the unending thoughts that are preventing you from falling
into much longed for slumber? Even after trying to count sheep,
or breaths, or finding a comfortable position to rest in, it can
often be challenging to receive the benefit of a deep, relaxing,
and rejuvenating sleep.
Many
people don't realize that there are many opportunities to take
rests or breaks during the day. When there is such an opportunity,
most people don't know how to use that time to their benefit,
because they are so used to letting their thoughts think them
into the next event of the day, or feel consumed by the pain in
their body.
Take
driving, for example. Sitting in your car is a perfect opportunity
to take a few relaxing, unwinding breaths. While listening to
music, whether you enjoy soft jazz, folk, oldies, country or new
rock, you can learn to consciously choose to use the time to rest
your body and mind from the days events. Even just keeping your
attention focused on the music, you can let go of intrusive thoughts,
as they pop up, and feel refreshed. When listening to the radio,
the blaring commercials can take over, or the (bad) news of the
day, or stories from the DJ's can be a distraction from time that
can be intentionally used to unwind.
If
no conscious break is taken during the day, by the time a person
drops their head onto their pillow at night, their mind and body
may be so "cranked" up that it's a wonder that anyone
can get to sleep at all. Here's what I mean - visualize a "crank",
or a screwdriver, placed somewhere in your body making things
tighter in your system as the day progresses:
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Wake
up to an insistent alarm (crank)
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Rush around to get ready for your day (crank)
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Drive to work and get behind slow people, the train, or too
many lights (crank)
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Arrive at work to your schedule being changed and not having
the time to do the tasks you had planned on (crank)
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Rush around to do errands during your lunch break (crank)
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Or, like many people, skip lunch (crank, crank)
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Stay busy at work, never feeling like you can ever "do
it all" (double crank)
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Leave work later than you had hoped, rush home (crank)
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Figure out what to have for dinner (crank)
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Watch the evening (bad) news (crank)
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Clean the kitchen, do some laundry, pick up and get ready
for the day tomorrow (crank)
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Read or watch TV to relax (this may not be a crank up, but
it's not necessarily a crank down either since the adrenalin
rush of a "stimulating" TV show can result in poor
sleep
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Lay
your head on your pillow to try to sleep and wonder why your
system is so "tight" that it can't relax and go
to sleep.
So,
what to do? Wake Up! Get Conscious!
Learn
to use your day to your benefit intentionally, instead of letting
your day, and your habits run you!
Instead
of unconsciously following your old habits of increasing the layers
of stress, find opportunities to take a few conscious breaths,
and tighten and relax your muscles a few times, and let go.
As
you learn to implement intentional relaxation "moments"
throughout your day, your system will be more ready to unwind
at the end of the day because there will be so much less unwinding
to do. Again, this is just as helpful for people experiencing
pain, because your body benefits from the use of intentional,
relaxing breaths which bring oxygen to your muscles and improved
blood flow to the areas that are healing.
Taking
the time to care for ourselves is more of a "being"
experience, rather than an act of doing. Although many of us are
driven by the "doing" tasks that we set before ourselves
each day, learning to implement small relaxation moments that
will put you in a brief state of "being" will allow
you to be so much more effective at whatever you are "doing".
And what better way to "be" than to "be" able
to sleep well each night.
Doing
these exercises isn't as hard as remembering to do them. Changing
your habits, and incorporating new cues into your daily patterns,
will provide a path for successful relaxation and improved sleep.
May
you sleep deeply.
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